There's no "I" in TEAM...but there IS in B****

Funny, coming off the heels of my last blog...but as one wise old man said, "remember what you said in your last blog, don't hang onto resentment, fix the problem and move on..."

I deserve some respect. And courtesy. Not just me. Every human being. And living thing. Well, maybe not Osama Bin Laden. Actually, maybe even him. Because if we don't treat other people the way we all ought to be treated, don't we just become as bad as the bad people? Or something like that. Can't think coherently right now. Very angry. But must remember this theory about not sinking to their level.

So my co-worker today announced to the company that she screwed up an important placement I had on the go. Well, not in those words. But all I know is yesterday, my candidate had an offer, and today, they're starting the search all over again. Why, you ask? Well, I have no friggin clue. Because SHE DIDN'T TELL ME ABOUT IT. And I have NO idea what she told my candidate. Because she didn't make notes in the file.

1) Please COMMUNICATE with me. It's my candidate, and my relationship to manage. Don't string her along for WEEKS, trying to stick your OWN person in there, and then when your deal falls through, muck it up for my person too. AND THEN NOT TELL ME ABOUT IT, until I hear about it from the company-wide email. Don't I deserve at least a phone call to tell me I got screwed? And my candidate was screwed? And shouldn't someone call her?
2) I am your coworker, not your enemy. Not even your competitor. Wouldn't it all be better if we worked in a team to try and get this deal sealed? If the client had made the offer a week ago even, we'd be finished.

Lessons Learned:
1) This is not the last time this will happen. I know this already. So I better learn to deal.
2) People are selfish and inconsiderate. I should know this too. And life is unfair. So I gotta learn to deal.
3) I better keep on top of people. No one will help me if I don't help myself. If I need to know something, I better ask.
4) People are afraid to confront difficult situations. They will avoid, rather than deal in person. Like sending emails instead of calling. I should not be the same. I should deal with this bad situation now and try and get my coworker to cooperate. Whether she will or not, is beyond my control.
5) I should not treat my coworker with the same disrespect I got.
6) The key thing is to try and salvage my relationship with my candidate.

Let's see how many of these lessons I can remember...

GRRRRR!